Feeling jumbled, humbled, and ready to quit? This is me on the daily lately.
The learning process is so painful. We can forget that the steps we have to go through when we're learning something new are definitely not for the faint of heart. We have to accept that it's gonna be humbling. I don't know about you, but at this stage of the game, feeling humbled is well...humbling. Not knowing feels uncomfortable.
They say the first step in learning anything is unconscious incompetence but I jumped right to step two...conscious incompetence...
The step where you know you don't know. All the gaps are visible...and it's like a constant flashlight shining on everything you don't know...yet another thing you don't have the answer to.
They say it'll get better and whoever they are, are right. As you move through the next steps of learning...eventually you'll look back and think, oh, I'm doing this now without giving it a thought.
Kind of like learning to ride a bike or drive a car.
You're going to move through a process:
Unconscious incompetence.
You don't even know what you don't know.
You probably need training wheels.
Conscious incompetence.
You become aware of what you don't know and what you need to learn.
Being aware of your balance, the fact that you're losing it, falling off the bike.
Conscious competence.
You can do that "thing" but it still requires your conscious awareness.
You're staying on that bike...you're "there", you're doing it, but you still notice that you're doing it.
Unconscious competence.
That moment when you realize you're doing the thing and you don't even realize it...it's become effortless.
The next thing you know, you're riding that bike like you've done it all your life.
Unfortunately you can't skip to the last step. It doesn't work that way...ugh. There has to be some sort of discomfort in order to move through the steps.
Unconscious competence...
I'm still waiting for that step. Mind you, I write these about 5 weeks out, so perhaps by the time this comes out, I'll be there. Hmm, between you and me...I'm a little doubtful...and I definitely know I'll be closer. And that's okay, acceptance, accepting that the pain is part of the process, and it really can be physically uncomfortable to learn.
Are you ready?
Let's get to it...
Your challenge...
Are you new at something right now and feeling the pain of learning? It can be anything, a new sport, how to cook, anything.
Here's a reminder for you:
You will never grow if you don't get uncomfortable. It's a fact. Learning is one of those things...especially as you move through life. It can take more effort.
It's called "the comfort zone" for a reason, and if you want to keep evolving...you have to move away from it. It is in the discomfort that you grow.
You've got this.
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Cheers,
Ann
Jumbled, humbled, and ready to quit?