I've recently found myself having to take my own advice.
Yikes...easier said than done!
Specifically, when the frame I always give to people when they're going through a sudden, unexpected change...good or bad is "Everything is temporary" . But now I find myself in a situation where it's not temporary. It's permanent.
Now what?
Suddenly my beliefs and what I "preach" was being put to the ultimate test. I felt disillusioned and disheartened. It kind of knocked me off my feet.
Then...
I had an aha moment when I got out of the shower the other day. I realized I do have an option. My feelings about this situation are changeable. Not now...because I need to be where I am right now. Remembering that feelings are data, not necessarily facts. They're a point in time, subject to change...and I know with time I will adapt. I'll be in a better frame of mind.
How about you?
Have you ever found yourself in a situation you weren't expecting and realized that maybe this is going to be permanent? I'm right beside you...and like I said...it's not about ignoring the feelings you have about the situation...it's acknowledging that with time, and patience, you can change how you feel about it.
Give yourself some grace.
You know...the same grace you give to others that you don't extend to yourself.
It's a mindset shift, and that can take time.
Allow yourself the time.
Take it step by step.
Bite sized pieces are the only way to eat an elephant.
Start fresh every day...because everyday is a clean slate to write on. An opportunity to recalibrate. You can design how you want that day to go and build on it. Repeated regularly, this will lead to the mindset shift.
Hang in there!
Are you ready?
Let's get to it...
Your challenge...
Quite frankly, I don't know if you're ever ready when you're blindsided.
If you've had the wind knocked out of you...been blindsided...here are some suggestions:
Before you attempt to get up...
Stop.Take a breath.
Check for damage, and then ask yourself - What do I need right now?
Then stand up...
Is what you need something you can provide or do you need help from someone else?
Ask...
Because sometimes others have exactly what you need.
Regardless of whether it's a temporary or permanent situation....take a moment now. Give yourself some grace, patience and time. Acknowledge the feelings and be with them. This is the way forward.
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Cheers,
Ann
Have you ever had to take your own advice?